Do you ever feel like you work so hard all the time, but never achieve success? Like you’ll never make it or hit your break? Like you’re in a competition for your success?
It’s not other people or the universe holding you back. It’s your own definition of success that’s keeping your from having it in the palm of your hands, because there’s enough success to go around for everyone.
Maybe you see success defined in one way – name status, a certain education, certain income, big home, expensive car, hot body, the trendiest clothes or endless likes and followers on social media. Maybe that’s all that you’ve seen success defined as.
Those successes aren’t inherently bad; money, making it and spending it on yourself or others, is not bad. Money can be used in powerfully good and rewarding ways, just like all of your strengths, abundances and gifts. Things go wrong when you give up your control, so that money, or any other aspiration or desire, is controlling you.
Don’t give your power away to anyone or anything. Make your own definition of success.
It’s okay if you still want the nice car, big home, hot bod, etc. But, think about this: what happens when you get that hot ride, rockin’ mansion and sick-pack abs? Will you be satisfied and done striving for success? Will it be enough? Will you not feel the desire for more?
Success has to go beyond possessions and money because those materials are fleeting. There’s also always something newer, bigger, more improved and trendier. If your definition of success is based in only money and materials, you’ll become a slave to them, chasing them down forever, never fully grasping it in your hands.
Success has to be viewed in different categories. There’s short-term and long-term success, financial success, creative success, spiritual success. You have success in relationships with family, friends, partners, co-workers, etc. There’s so many ways to look at and define success.
Take a look at how you define success. How was your view of success formed? Is it based off what your parents think is successful? What the magazines and media show as successful? Is it based off your friends and peers? What does a successful day look like for you? What does a successful life look like for you?
My definition of success: loving my partner, family, friends and myself fully and being fully present in each moment. Feeling connected to my soul as well as my humanness, and connected to nature and something bigger than myself. Creating things – writing blog posts, books, and for fun, making yoga classes, baking and cooking – and creating memories. Being a student and a teacher, a giver and receiver of help and love. Using my gifts, strengths and talents in a way I’m passionate about to help others. Relaxing on a beach, enjoying the sun, sea and my breath.
Maya Angelou’s definitions of success: “Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.”
What about you? How do you define success?
I’d LOVE to hear from you! How did you learn what success is? What are you chasing after in life? Is your definition of success keeping you from actually having it? Do you want to redefine what success means to you? Do you have a new definition of success?
Sending you love and support on your journey,