You know that saying, “Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life?” Well, I call a big BS. I absolutely love the jobs I chose as a yoga teacher and a holistic health coach but let me tell you, it is still hard work. And there will always be hard work that comes along with your dream job and even more along the path of getting there. So, let’s just all get this idea out of our heads that if you love what you do then it won’t feel like work.
I think Elizabeth Gilbert explained it best in Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear: “Mark Manson… said that the secret to finding your purpose in life is to answer this question in total honesty: “What’s your favorite flavor of shit sandwich?” What Manson means is that every single pursuit—no matter how wonderful and exciting and glamorous it may initially seem—comes with its own brand of shit sandwich, its own lousy side effects. As Manson writes with profound wisdom: “Everything sucks, some of the time.” You just have to decide what sort of suckage you’re willing to deal with. So the question is not so much “What are you passionate about?” The question is “What are you passionate enough about that you can endure the most disagreeable aspects of the work?” Manson explains it this way: “If you want to be a professional artist, but you aren’t willing to see your work rejected hundreds, if not thousands, of times, then you’re done before you start. If you want to be a hotshot court lawyer, but can’t stand the eighty-hour workweeks, then I’ve got bad news for you.” Because if you love and want something enough—whatever it is—then you don’t really mind eating the shit sandwich that comes with it.”
In my short experience of it, adulthood is a whole bunch of responsibility, freedom and sh*t sandwiches. Not just in regards to work but also in regards to where you live. So, let’s not get caught up on the greener grass on the other side, either.
(Unless it’s a case of life or death, then get to the other side. Many people are fleeing their homes and countries due to violence and wars. My hope is we can welcome them with open arms. Since Trump was horrifyingly nominated President, many Americans are contemplating leaving the states or are living in fear of deportation. In the case of oppression, sometimes you have flee and sometimes you have to stay and fight. That depends on your situation and is personal to you.)
Greeks look at me like I’m insane when I tell them I left Los Angeles to live in Athens. They would trade places with me in a heartbeat. Although summers on the Greek islands are a dream, the financial crisis is real and people are suffering. But the financial crisis is a sh*t sandwich I’m willing to eat in order to live here. The truth is no place is perfect and most are far from it. A gratitude practice always helps me stay positive, happy and grounded if I start looking at the grass on the other side.
So, what are you passionate enough about that you can endure the most disagreeable aspects of it? I love to hear from YOU!
Sending love and support on your journey… and I hope the picture of Biggie Smalls brings you a smile.